You're not doing it wrong. You're thinking about it wrong.

The other day, I got a client stumped.

She was telling me how she does get everything done in the end, but she doesn’t like how she goes about it.

She’ll work on one subject until her focus fizzles out... then get up and do the dishes.

Then she’ll sit back down to study again. When her attention string snaps, she switches to something else. Then it’s coffee time.

Then back to the books. Then laundry. Then another switch...

Sound familiar?

When I asked her what wasn’t working about that flow, she said something like:

“It’s not how you’re supposed to do things.”

So even though she was actually getting through it all, she wasn’t allowing herself to feel accomplished.

What if there’s nothing wrong with the way you do things?

What if it’s not faulty, it’s just different?

What if the way your brain naturally works… is actually working for you?

I know this: once you stop fighting your way of doing things, there’s a lot more energy left for actually doing them!

Stop "Should-ing" on Yourself!

I can hear your self-talk — because I was you once:

“I should be able to keep the house tidy like my neighbors.”

“I should be able to exercise regularly — I know it’s good for me!”

“I should be able to wash the dishes at night. It’s not rocket science!”

This kind of thinking doesn’t motivate you.

It leaves you frustrated, disheartened and frankly, ashamed.

The real reason you feel so bad is that you’re comparing yourself to people who don’t have ADHD.

That neighbor?

Your sister-in-law?

The rebbetzin?

They don’t have your struggles. They’re not working against the same distraction, overwhelm and follow-through challenges, The two of you don't even grasp time in the same way!

It’s like a diabetic saying:

“I should be able to control my own sugar levels. Insulin is a crutch. I’m weak for needing it!”

We’d never say that kind of should. And it’s time we stop saying it to ourselves.

Instead of beating yourself up, let’s build an easier, more organized, ADHD-friendly life — together.

I will show you how to:

✅ Set realistic, doable goals for building your organizational skills

✅ Discover tools and supports that actually work for your brain

✅ Stop comparing yourself to others and start tracking your own progress

✅ Create simple systems and habits to beat overwhelm and decision fatigue forever!

Stop "shoulding" on yourself.

Stop "Should-ing" on Yourself!

I can hear your self-talk — because I was you once:

“I should be able to keep the house tidy like my neighbors.”

“I should be able to exercise regularly — I know it’s good for me!”

“I should be able to wash the dishes at night. It’s not rocket science!”

This kind of thinking doesn’t motivate you.

It leaves you frustrated, disheartened and frankly, ashamed.

The real reason you feel so bad is that you’re comparing yourself to people who don’t have ADHD.

That neighbor?

Your sister-in-law?

The rebbetzin?

They don’t have your struggles. They’re not working against the same distraction, overwhelm and follow-through challenges, The two of you don't even grasp time in the same way!

It’s like a diabetic saying:

“I should be able to control my own sugar levels. Insulin is a crutch. I’m weak for needing it!”

We’d never say that kind of should. And it’s time we stop saying it to ourselves.

Instead of beating yourself up, let’s build an easier, more organized, ADHD-friendly life — together.

I will show you how to:

✅ Set realistic, doable goals for building your organizational skills

✅ Discover tools and supports that actually work for your brain

✅ Stop comparing yourself to others and start tracking your own progress

✅ Create simple systems and habits to beat overwhelm and decision fatigue forever!